Thursday, April 4, 2013

Love the one you're with

While on a date night with my husband, Greg, I discovered an interesting phenomenon. The majority of the couples sitting around us had something in common – one or both of them kept messing with their phone.

Now, I’m not some kind of phone prude. I like to stay connected and consider myself a pretty accessible person. But I am beginning to learn something – I need to love the one I’m with! Scheduling time with someone doesn’t mean anything if I don’t give them my full attention. Have you ever been out to lunch or dinner with a friend who interrupts your time together by answering texts, responding to email or even answering a phone call? How did that make you feel? I hate to admit it, but I’ve been that person.

So I decided to make a change. Over the last few weeks I’ve purposely ignored any texts or email (unless they were from my kids) anytime I was meeting with someone. No matter what! I have found that the world didn’t come to an end during the hour and a half that I sipped coffee or enjoyed a meal. And, with giving them my full attention, I was reminded that I know some pretty amazing people. 

We live in a fast paced, busy world. Life happens all around us whether we actively participate or not. But God gives us 24 hours in every day, so how are we using them? Are we so busy multitasking that we have lost our sense of purpose?  I can guarantee that if you trust God to take an hour or two of your time to pour His love into another person, He will bless your obedience and grow your relationship. 

We are designed to be in relationship with God and with others. But we can only be blessed and be a blessing when we fully engage in the people He brings across our path. So I have to ask…do you love the one you’re with?

Be blessed,

“Therefore encourage each other and build one another up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11


Lisa Bell said...

One of the first times I traveled for business, my manager insisted we turn our phones off during dinner. Somewhat offended because I had children at home, I silenced mine. Nevertheless, I appreciate that he wanted us to give that hour of time getting to know each other so we worked better as a team.

I routinely silence my phone during meetings at work, or when interviewing for magazine articles. Should I do any less for friends and family?

And a step further, when I spend time reading my Bible and praying, do I stop and respond to texts or messages? Ouch. Guilt as charged. If I should ignore my phone for anyone, it is the One who loves me more than life.

Jennifer said...

Excellent point Lisa! Thanks for sharing some great perspective. :)

Natalie Guzman said...


I have thought the same thing. During the last week I have been very conscious of NOT answering my phone and every text message or notification as they come through on my phone. Just like you said, the world did not end! I have felt MUCH more relaxed as a side effect though before I was always anxious I would miss something.

This is an excellent post. Thanks!

Jennifer said...

Thanks Natalie! I'm so glad you were able to put it into practice. :) Thanks for the encouragement.

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