Monday, May 30, 2011

More than I bargained for

My small fraction of Irish heritage basically allows my skin to be one of two colors: white or red. So, needless to say, when it came time to dividing my family's outdoor projects this weekend, I took the project shaded from the hot Texas sun.

My project was to pull weeds in the front flower bed...again. I'd recently planted some new tufts of decorative grass along the border but it seems I got more than I bargained for. Another breed of decorative grass was intermingled with the kind I chose and it was taking over the flower bed.

I was shocked to see it taking over so aggressively now, it had been several weeks since I'd planted it. But as I started digging it out I realized it has formed a complex root system beneath the surface before it ever made it's presence known. I was going to have to till up the whole area to get all of the nasty roots out!

This grass didn't magically appear, I brought it. I had unknowingly sown seeds that will cause a lot of damage to my other plants. I thought about all the times I have sown destructive seeds into my own life or the lives of others.

Sometimes we say things just to be mean. But the majority of the time, we don't realize how hurtful our words or actions can be to other people. We can offer up suggestions or comments without realizing how critical our words sound. While we feel we've helped someone, all we've done is sow seeds of doubt and insecurity. People are not machines, they don't need a constant 'fine tuning'!

I have been struggling with this a lot lately. Being self-employed and the parent of teenagers is ideal soil for bad seeds to grow in. The constant doubt, worry and lack of instruction can create the most destructive weeds. My critical nature can sow insecurity and resentment in myself and my kids. By the time the bad behavior shows up, a root system of emotion has already taken hold in their spirit. We then have to choose to live with the new growth or remove it at the root. Praise God that His word tends to us and can free us from our weedy infestations!

No matter what you're situation is, you have the opportunity to sow both positive or negative seed. Filtering the seeds will help you determine if they are good or bad: “Will this help them?”; “Does it build them up or tear them down?”; “Am I trying to 'fine tune' their behavior?”; “Is it necessary?” Filtering your words will keep the negative root system from taking hold. Especially in your own heart and mind.

God uses us to tend to His garden. We are supposed to sow into one another. Our friends and family will flourish if we'll only filter our seed. Only then will we bloom for His glory!

Be blessed,
Jennifer

“Sow righteousness for yourselves, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the LORD, until he comes and showers his righteousness on you.” Hosea 10:12

“Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy.” Psalm 126:5
(My heart needed to hear this!)

2 comments:

TECHNOSLEUTH said...

As always, a shot in the arm from a different perspective as well as a "nudge" or sometimes a "shove" in the right direction. God smiles every Monday when he reads your blog!!

Jennifer said...

Thank you Technosleuth for your encouragement! I'm so thankful that you're reading the blog, I pray it continues to be a blessing! :)

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